It’s no secret that men tend to be less involved when it comes to weddings; whether they’re confused, overwhelmed or just disinterested, many men let their fiance take the reins in the wedding planning. When it comes to preparing the groomsmen, however, most men will chip in as much as possible. It’s important to stay on the same page when it comes to organizing the groomsmen, especially if you’re entrusting your fiance to handle that aspect of the wedding.
Who’s in Charge? – If you’re letting your fiance or his Best Man handle the groomsmen, make sure they know who’s in charge. Don’t overstep their authority or confuse the groomsmen by making contradictory requests of them. If you want to show your support, offer your phone number and one of the Maid of Honor or Mother of the Bride in case they have a problem that your fiance or Best Man can’t help them with. Make sure they know to go to whoever is in charge first and only come to you after.
Don’t Wear the Pants -If your fiance would rather you handle the responsibility, you’ll need to manage the men on your own. Try to enlist a bridesmaid to handle the responsibility. Typically the Bride, Maid of Honor and Mother of the Bride are all very consumed on the day of the wedding and it can add extra stress trying to manage everything. It’s best to ask an organized and confident bridesmaid to handle the men, but make sure she isn’t too forceful or demanding. Men shy away from wedding festivities and if they’re pushed or treated poorly, their mood can bring down your Groom on his big day.
Be Clear and Scheduled – Most everyone works best on a schedule. It helps reduce confusion and gives the groomsmen an idea of what should be happening. Make sure you write a tentative schedule for the men the night before the wedding so they can stay on track on their way to the ceremony. Give approximate timelines, have them arrive at the ceremony early and try to account for any unexpected disasters that they may encounter.
Be Grateful – Like we said before, weddings are typically more for women than for men. Be understanding of the fact that each of these men is here for you and your fiance’s special day. Show them your appreciation with their groomsmen gifts; try giving them a gift that fits their personality and shows how grateful you are for them. If you feel your Best Man or any other groomsmen have gone over and above to make your day perfect, make sure to get them something extra special. You may want to give them their gift separately, but it can help them feel that all their extra effort was truly appreciated.
